It is said, "Better bend than break." The people who have life experience to some extent understand this idea very much.
The flexibility is very strong more than you simply imagine. However, those who don't have life experience don't understand this matter mostly.
For you to be more elegant as an individual, what you absolutely need is the flexibility in communicating with others.
Now, you are intellectually entitled to philosophize the following matter, "Willows are weak, yet they bind other wood." There is the truth in it in human civilization humankind has experienced by inches on earth.